b'Dr. Dog, Marriage MavenI thought we should go back to counseling.My husband had a better idea.by Rona MaynardI tsnotthatIdidntlovemy incompatibility but the struggle to raisehusband, just that I hadnt been a toddler with no plans or money. Weliking him much. And I could tell startedover,thinkingwehadcrackedfromhisdistractedexpression theriddleofourmarriageasifanythat he felt the same way about me. Not coupleeverdoes.Justwhenyouadaypassedwithoutmutteredcom- couldnt be happier to have chosen yourplaints about trifles (the volume of his mate, the next life transition knocks youArsenal game, the way I perched the lid outofyourgroove.Standinguptoaon the mayonnaise jar). Paul could still parent, mourning that parent. Buying,makemelaughlikenobodyelse,but then selling the home of your dreams.howlonghaditbeensinceweheld Sending a child into the world. When Ihands across the dining room table? cryatweddingsandIdo,everyWedsurvivedworseinthepast timeitsbecauseImhopingagainstfour decades. At 22, I tried to leave but hopeforacoupleheadingoffintoacouldnt stay gone. Our problem wasnt future they cant possibly imagine. Continued on page 28 gwww.TheNewBarker.com THE NEW BARKER 27'